Twin Flames, Soulmates And Love

How do you know if you’re in a twin flame relationship? What’s the difference between a twin flame and a soulmate?

You’re here because you want to know more about twin flames and soulmates. Maybe you’ve read a lot about the topic. Maybe you’ve only just found out about it.

It’s even likely you feel you’re involved with a twin flame right now.

Either way, there’s a lot of information on the internet about this hot topic.

Twin Flames And Soulmates

This is my view of twin flames and soulmates. It’s based on what my Guides tell me, plus my experience of doing thousands of readings over the years with people who are involved with these energies.

But First…

Before you continue, I’d like to remind you of some very important spiritual truths.

1. Freewill

2. Consciousness(God) is the creator.

Freewill means you have the freedom to choose. Nothing is carved in stone. That said, as spiritual beings having a human experience, we all have conditioned beliefs and behaviours. Big time!

These beliefs and behaviours were formed starting in childhood. I believe in reincarnation, so these patterns were also formed in past lives.

You formed these patterns as a way to deal with the environment you were in at particular times. Parents, family, friends, school, society, work, success, failure, rejection, etc.

Even now the books or TV shows you watch, your friends and even the food you eat are continuing to condition you.

This conditioning is a focal point for Universal Consciousness to express Itself.

As you can imagine, most of our conditioning is quite restricting to Divine Intelligence.


Your Consciousness begins to identify with these conditioned patterns and a false “me” is created. This is called the ego.

You can observe your ego in yourself right now. That’s what meditation is. Stepping back and seeing the thoughts that say “I” — followed by something. I think, I want, I believe, I feel, I’m hungry, I’m tired,  I am the body, etc.

At times you’ll have an “aha” moment and realize that these thoughts are just that. Thoughts. They are not who you are. You are the Light and Spaciousness that thoughts happen in.

Going Beyond Karma And Letting Go

When you are able to “get into the gap” more often, and realize you are not your thoughts, The Universe can help you more.

Your old limits begin to fall away. New solutions and even miracles happen.

So What’s This Got To Do With Twin Flames And Soulmates?


The number one frustration with people in twin flame situations is that they can’t fully be with the person they have such intense feelings for.

This person is unavailable to them in some way.

This is known as the “runner and the chaser” syndrome. And if you’re reading this article, we all know which one you are. And that’s nothing to be ashamed of.

It’s a painful position to be in. And it seems like you are between a rock and a hard place. Part of you wants to forget and move on, but another part of you says you’ll never find love like that again. You’ll be lost.

The Truth About Twin Flames Is…

Nothing could be farther from the truth!

Love is within you. Love is who you are. Until you can love yourself, you won’t be able to manifest the loving relationship you so desire.

Any relationship you do manifest will be a twin flame relationship. Or a karmic flame relationship and other toxic relationships.

At the end of the day, these are all just words that are describing energy.

Any “flame” relationship will burn. But they do come into your life for a reason.

Twin flames are in our lives to teach us. I believe that we set these twin flame relationships up before we incarnate in order to learn certain lessons. You both planned to come into each other’s lives at a time that was not the “right” time.

Not to cause pain and ruin, just the opposite. To cause an awakening and enlightenment.  We all have inner limitations to dissolve and renovate. There are different lessons and life plans that we are all here to learn and experience.

So there are no twin flames on the planet that are exactly the same and equal.

They all have a different plan. You both choose it for your soul’s purpose and evolution.

We cannot identify the outcome (we weren’t born with an owner’s manual 🙂 But by connecting to our spirit which is pure love, we can soften and heal our pain when dealing with our twin flame.

The one thing all twin flames have in common is that until we learn the lesson of self love, they will always return. But we always have a choice.

It’s also possible that we could learn our life lesson before our twin flame does and decide to move on.

Why Lessons?

The only reason we go through lessons isn’t because we’re being punished. It’s in order to remove limitations from our Infinite Self. To reach Enlightenment.

Your true Self was never born and will never die. This is something the mind can never understand, so please don’t try to figure it out. You’ll only end up hurting yourself! 🙂

This is something you can only understand with your heart and spiritual vision.

The Essence Of The Twin Flame Lesson

The essence of the twin flame lesson is this: “Until you love and accept yourself unconditionally, you won’t find your “Eternal Soulmate.”

What Is A Soulmate?

A soulmate could be anyone. A spouse, a friend, a pet, a lover, a parent. Essentially they are people who you have a deep love connection with, but it’s HARMONIOUS.

The Eternal Soulmate is the one you spend your life harmoniously with.

Not to say you won’t disagree or even argue, but they love you and accept you. They want to be with you. They want to understand you.

Is It Possible To Be With My Twin Flame?

Yes, BUT…

As long as they are your twin flame the same patterns of frustration and misery will repeat themselves. Until the lesson as to why you came to be together is learned.

However, it is possible when you have let go of the outcome (see note below.)

Note: This means you know you deserve love, and have faith that your ideal relationship already exists. However, you are at peace in your heart about the form/specific person it will be. You are leaving that in God’s hands.

If you truly have let go of the outcome, then Creative Intelligence can act through you bringing you the perfect person in the perfect way.

There is a chance that this person could end up being a person that you had a twin flame connection with in the past.

Are you excited by that? That’s fine. But be honest with yourself with whether you have truly surrendered.

This means you want only the one who is in your highest good. If you have a strong attraction with someone, you say “ if so and so is in my highest good.” And you must mean it in your heart!

You are willing to not be with that person if being with them is not aligned with Divine Will. Remember, The Universe wants you to be happy and fulfilled. You are not separate from the Universe or God.

It’s only our human minds/ego structures that feel separate. In truth, All is One.

When we truly surrender, so much is possible. Surrender does NOT mean curling up in a ball in the corner!

It means continuing to persevere with your dreams and your life, doing your best, finding balance as best you can, and having faith that your highest good already exists.

You’re excited because you know that the Universe will deliver it to you in a way that is even better than you can imagine.

I hope you enjoyed this article and found it informative. Please share with anyone you think could benefit.

And if you’re still lost and hurting with your twin flame relationship, I can help with a reading.

Further Related Reading:

Differences: Soulmates And Karmic Flames

Should You Stay Or Should You Go?