Part 1 Goodbye Friday Class

 

Part 1 Friday Zumba class 

The Scoop: I’ve been teaching Zumba at fitness group for 10 years. Every Friday morning.


Sidenote: I intentionally refer the management’s names as number 1 and 2 for some anonymity.


Never a vacation — not one. Rain, sleet, snow or shine. Fevers. Detached retinas. Injuries. I only missed 2 or 3 classes (in 10 years) when it was physically impossible for me to teach the class. But I always found subs.

The management team (number 1 and 2) did not find the subs. I did. In other words, every single class was taken care on my end for 10 years.

I also provided amazing and professional sound system (lugging it to and from class every week), along with the authorized music that I paid for a with a monthly license.

I always thought about what I could do to make the class fun and interesting. I created new and challenging but fun choreography.

I’m was always learning and upgrading my skills not only in Zumba, but in fitness, nutrition and coaching. I also became a certified yoga teacher during this time.

Anybody who knows me can attest my spirit and heart.

I overdelivered.

I advertised the class. In the first couple of years,  I even went to the Eastminster neighbourhood a few times and posted flyers all around the side streets advertising the class. Dave and I stopped because we got too busy, and there’s also a bylaw about posting flyers. But we were trying.

I had the class advertised in my newsletter and on my (Google page one) Zumba website.

I’m also a powerhouse social media user and many people came to the class after FIRST hearing about it from me.

During this entire time I also ran my own successful Zumba business in our area of Toronto, the Beaches. And I always let people know about my Friday morning class.

I expanded so quickly (my Beaches Zumba business) in the beginning that I had to create new classes scheduled for morning and night.

I had no intention of starting Zumba as a business. I first got into it in order to lose weight and because I love to dance.

During the past couple of years due to over-saturation, many new gyms, and other factors beyond my control, my classes started decreasing in size. It got to the point where a couple of months ago, I had dropped all of my classes.

This was because there were often only 2 or 3 people in attendance and not even enough to pay the rent — let alone make a living. I was paying out of my own pocket quite often.

I shut it down. It wasn’t an easy decision for me (very difficult and heart wrenching in it’s own way), but I did it for practical reasons and the stress of running the business was getting too much.

I did keep my Zumba license as well as my insurance. I did NOT retire!!!

While having lunch with another instructor friend last week, my friend said “Are you leaving your Friday morning class?” I was like “what?!”

My friend showed me the advertisement on a Facebook group for Zumba instructors and subs in Toronto. The ad said the Eastminster group was looking for a new Zumba instructor.

 

Herein lies some irony. The Facebook group the ad was placed on had been created by me a few years ago. Yes, you read that correctly — the advertisement was on this same group!

So I emailed number 1 and asked her what was happening.

Number 1 didn’t even respond to me, but forwarded my email to number 2.

Number 2 who phoned me and seemed sincerely sorry that I had to find out this way, but still insisted me to LIE and tell everyone in the class that I was was “retiring” from Zumba. (Good cop/bad cop?)

I was in shock, so at first I was going along with this sinister proposal. Because that is what I thought would be best for the class — to adjust to a new instructor filling my shoes. Which are big shoes to fill!  Hey if they had any decency or consideration for my feelings, I would have left with a big party class send off.

But then it dawned on me as the shock began to slowly wear off. Eastminster mngmt. team’s plan was to have me come the following Friday and they were going to present this bizarre proposal to me.

Their plan was for Friday (Feb. 16) to be my last class. And at that time I was to tell the class that I was retiring from Zumba and moving on.

WTF?!!!

They didn’t plan on me being alerted about the ad on Facebook by one of my instructor friends.

(Nevermind it was on my own Facebook group!)

The whole thing is shenanigans. If management been straightforward and honest with me, we could’ve dealt with things in a much healthier way.

They say that numbers have dropped and that is the basis for their decision. Yes, they have dropped. However, when I started there 10 years ago, there were maybe 7 or 8 people coming out to the class.

Within one year it exploded to 30, 40 or even 50.

This past year the class averages 18-25 students each week. There are a few very slow classes but still 12 to 15 in attendance. There are also a few that have 30 or so.


Sidenote: If they really were realistically concerned with covering the overhead, I could accept that. But even if true, it doesn’t explain why they never discussed it with me respectfully and as adults. Perhaps we could have worked together to find a way to boost attendance. Or, perhaps I might have decided to agree to let the class go — BUT on friendly and mutually agreeable terms. In other words, tell the class the truth that the numbers were down, and I was stepping aside to see if a new instructor could somehow turn things around. I would have been happy to stick around until a replacement was found, and then told the class. I deserved to go out with a “parting gift” and with honour for everything I had contributed the past 10 years!


Sure, I was hurt that they wanted me to leave for no real reason (without even looking to create a solution together) , but I was even more devastated that they did it all covertly and behind my back. And then to insist that I lie to the class (this was not a choice for me) in order for number 1 and 2 to save face (many of whom come BECAUSE of me) was just the knife going in even deeper.

This is intuitive speculation, but I feel sometimes people simply create drama and sabotage themselves because they are bored and unconsciously want the excitement of drama and pain to feed on.

Dave and I always envisioned it ending as a mutual understanding with friendship still intact.

I want to thank everyone who we saw (at Eastminster church) Friday Feb 9th!!

Your hugs, heartfelt and thoughtful card and support really put a balm on our hearts.

It was painful to come and say goodbye, but I woke up that morning and said “I need to go say goodbye to the class in person. And speak my truth.”

It was also painful that the people (number 1 and 2) who created this toxic mess didn’t come forward to acknowledge their roles in it. They were sticking to a story that they didn’t know what was going on and were confused.

When Dave and I arrived to pick up our equipment outside the door, we saw a card. At first we thought “Oh! Maybe number 1 and 2 are apologizing for how they handled this. Ok. We’ll just say goodbye.”

But the card was from you guys (participants in our class). So beautiful and helping us to heal from this!

The heartfelt moment of seeing you the last Friday, saying good bye and the the embracing hugs we shared, got me and you all very emotional, I was choked up and it made it hard for me speak my truth to everyone.

Number 2 saw this, stepped in and started to try to shut me down, by condescendingly and arrogantly saying “ok, Mary, very good” and clapping her hands. That’s when Dave spoke up on my behalf. Good thing he has some natural skills when it comes to public speaking and also knows how to project his voice when appropriate.

Management were still in denial. They were telling everyone that they don’t know anything and what was happening.

My words of truth: I love you all, I’m not retiring from you but I’m walking away from the control and manipulation of this egomaniacal behaviour. Thank you for your support and the beautiful memories we shared. I cherish this class for ever. It was my first Zumba class! I basically grew up with you to be the instructor of who I am today.

To the management number 1 and 2 of Friday Fitness group, I am moving on from you telling me how to run my class and criticizing and nitpicking my teaching all these years — not to mention insisting for me to lie to my students as to why you let me go for no real reason. I am not putting up with anymore of your trying to control and manipulate me. It was not only your group. You don’t own either it, or me. While I appreciated the money, I certainly was never dependent upon it. Without the participants and myself, there would be no class. It was co-created by many people.  I did the class mostly out of love. I move forward and forgive you both.

Manifest Your Heart’s Desires

Hello Lovelies

It’s been a while since my last blog post, I’ve been a busy bee this month with so many projects.

But I recorded and uploaded a Youtube video last week. About how to manifest your desires.

What do you to create?

More money?

Perfect relationship?

New car?

New job or your own business?

Better health?

As you may or many not know, we live in a Universe made out of super intelligent energy.

Our thoughts are energy, everything around you is energy.

Even your body which you assume is solid is made out of energy. We are like floating in space.

You can manifest anything your heart desires. Your thoughts create your reality.

That’s why it’s really important to keep your energy positive. Didn’t say it was easy but it can be if you are in the present moment.

Be mindful on the people you associate with. Even the people we  care about can sometimes be negative and dramatic that it becomes contagious and latches on us.

Not saying you have to end your relationship, instead change the subject to positive when ever they seem negative.

It’s also a good idea to restrict watching the news and violent TV shows/movies,

Another good way is to work on living a healthy lifestyle.

When you negative situations should arise it’s important to be aware not react and let go. Not sweeping it under the carpet but to keep merging ahead and keeping your eyes on the road.

Don’t let the distractions loose your focus on what you want manifest in your life.

In my video I will explain how to tap into the Manifestation muscle and a how you can manifest anything your heat desires.

Check it out:

 

One quick note: The best time to manifest your heart’s desire is during a new moon.

Which by the way, the next one Thursday May 25. It is a powerful new moon. You can set your intentions during three days of the new moon.

If you would like to learn more on attraction your soulmate,

I have a blog post all about that, click here

How To Attract Your Eternal soulmate

How To Attract Your Eternal Soulmate or Divine partner. 

I just wanted to let you know that I uploaded to youtube video.

It’s not a reading video. 

Its a video on using special crystal recipe how to attract your soulmate or divine partner. 

I used it many years ago and it worked!

I’m so excited to share it with you. So go grab a pen, paper and a beverage.

I’m about to give you a mini crystal lesson on how to attract your Soulmate Divine partner.

Here’s another article on how to attract your soulmate to you

Song About Soulmates

Hello Gorgeous Souls

I have had this blog post in a draft for a couple of months now- and today I finally felt it was time to finish it and publish it!

It’s a very interesting story I think you might enjoy 🙂 It’s song about soulmates.

May of last year I graduated Doreen Virtue’s Fairylogy course.

One of the missions was to search for fairies on film at dawn or dusk (it’s easier to see them on digital media – ever wonder what the orbs are in your photos?) and I did!
Fairies are nature spirits that are guardian angels to animals, flowers, plants and the earth.

They are very shy to show themselves, but they will appear if you believe in your heart.

I actually saw and got to record fairies on my film (after countless hours and days of looking :-).
I was so excited and I wanted to show it to my Fairylogy Facebook group peers.

So I uploaded it to Youtube. I thought,
“I need a cool song to go with the video.” But “wait!” I thought, I can’t just use any song,
I need copyright permission.
So I found a song my Dave wrote and recorded (he sang, played all the instruments) for me about 5 years ago.

It still needed to be professionally mastered, which is so expensive, great song but it sat in my iTunes library.
The name of it is “Butterfly.”

It’s all about the beautiful transition that happens when a soul finds their eternal soulmate and true love.
I thought it would be perfect to use it in the background for my video. The name “Butterfly” matches beautifully.

The sound didn’t upload very well.
Partly because it needed the final tweaks of professional mastering and also because when
I captured fairies in the video the music volume distorted for some mysterious unknown reason :-).

But I posted it anyways. Check it out:

Dave was a little uncomfortable with the way the song sounded in the video. He realized the song was a good one and he’d forgotten about it.

He wanted to have it professionally mastered. He knew he would one day.

The Universe has our backs when we get our blocks (fears, doubts, negative stuff from childhood, etc.) out of the way.

One of the things Fairy energy is known for is rewarding you with little gifts when you take care of the earth, like picking up trash off the side walk and roads ETC.

So this was my mission and Dave was helping me along.

In the video I filmed one of our excursions to help clean up the earth (I used to have a wasp phobia.

The only thing I asked of the fairies was that they please keep the wasps away! And they did 🙂

Check out the video:

2 weeks after I posted the video,
Dave got an email stating that he won $2,500 in studio and mastering as a prize for a song contest.

He’d forgotten he was entered!

Perfect Divine Timing to get Butterfly professionally mastered!

This song is made out of love and has a special loving healing energy when you listen to it.

Listen to the finished version of “Butterfly” and view the lyrics:

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I created the artwork for it 🙂 Another interesting miracle happened.

I was drawing a blank on the sketch (how hard could it be to just a draw a butterfly?)

So I thought I’d pay my beautiful ravine forest for inspiration.

It was January -in Canada! – We were amazed to see a bunch of butterflies!

Check it out (I filmed it on my Instagram account):

Heres  the art work I created 🙂

Butterfly Cover

If you would like purchase and download Dave’s song (it’s only $1) click here

Click here to read Dave’s blog on Fairies.

Click here to read more about how the Butterfly song got created.

Tarot Reading For Soulmates

Here is a tarot reading for soulmates or it could resonate on any other topic in your life.

I’m using the Steampunk Tarot. It has such a lovely Victorian era.

1st card: Eight of Cups

The Eight of Cups is telling you that you need to put your burden down.

Maybe you have been feeling weighed down by something or just repeatable negative thought pattern.

It is time to let it go. It is preventing you from moving forward in your life and feeling joy.

It can also suggest that you feel like someone may have abandoned you. That someone forgotten about you or you’re unloved.

The more stress over this. The more power you give these negative thoughts.

Don’t believe those thoughts.

You need to walk away from those terrible thoughts now. They’re dragging your energy down.

I know it’s easier said than done. But by thinking these things you actually affirm to the Universe that you want more of this to happen.

The Law of attraction works by your thoughts alone.

You can attract positive things to you and the negative. This is why it is important to always work on yourself to spiral upwards. Do things that make you feel good about your self.

It’s important to give yourself white space.

Take a time out and take your self out on a date to nature (being out in nature is one of the best healing solutions you can do to raise your vibration and spiral upward).

Try it and trust the process that it is all of divine timing.


2nd card: Judgement

Judgement tells us that something that we thought was stagnant and is going to be awakened and revived.

An energy of renewal will be entering your life.

A major shift is indicated here.

But first you have to shake things up to make this happen. Like letting something go. As indicated in the 1st card of this reading.

Try doing some spring cleaning, like major purge, donate and let go of things that no longer serve you.

This can definitely get things moving in the love department. Visualize your making room for someone or that your getting ready to move in (with that person).


3rd card: Seven of Cups

The Seven of cups is telling you to watch out not to scatter yourself.  You need to ground yourself and not believe all those repetitive thoughts.

Lately so many people been telling me they’re addicted to watch/spy/stalk  their ex one social media profile (you can’t really stalk or spy on someone if its on the internet, it’s meant to be scene by you).

Hoping for a glimpse of that person will mention them or give them a sign of hope.

I totally understand the situation but the only thing thats going to happen is scattered energy and an illusion.  Don’t put your self through that.

It’s not healthy to do this because the energy actually pushes the loved one further. It’s important to get get a hold of yourself and get grounded.

Go outside and touch a tree, put your back against a tree or get a plant with large leaves and touch the leaves. This helps to ground the energy.

Also the 7 of cups tells us to plan ahead. That there are many choices for you but you need to choose one at a time, focus and time management is needed.

Here is  the Youtube tarot reading for soulmates

Multi Oracle Reading

Hello Beautiful Souls

I just filmed and updated a new Youtube multi oracle reading.

1st card is Rhodochrosite

Rhodochrosite is an excellent card for attracting love into your life. We all need love to survive.

But what happens when a soulmate partner just seems so negative and just irritates and trigger angry emotions in you?

Instead of acting out, have compassion. Rhodochrosite is a stone of unconditional love. If you don’t have a piece of this beautiful stone in your healing tool box (that’s what I call it 🙂 no worries, looking at a photo of it will work.

Take a deep breath and stare into the photo and receive the loving healing energy.

Take into consideration that the other person is in pain and could be going through a challenging time. For me, when I tune into the rhodochrosite, the word compassion keeps flowing across my third eye.

Everyone we meet — especially our soulmate family — will always trigger an emotional response. Yes the union is BLISS. But they came into into our lives to heal something within us that needs healing.  They show us how much love we have inside us.


2nd card is Solar Plexus chakra

 

Solar Plexus chakra is about gaining your own power and not giving it away.

Take control over your life. Don’t allow someone or something to have power over you. You are the master of you.

An example is related to the first card above. If you get triggered and then get upset, you are giving your power away.

Solar plexus connects us to our intuition. It is our inner pendulum. Think about it…

Did you ever walk into a room and feel something in the pit of you stomach and find later that there was argument or some kind of negative episode?

Or when you meet someone who gives you a shiver and the butterflies. That is meeting your soulmate.

When you feel stressed the energy is stored your belly. It’s important to not react. Stay calm and in control. Breathe. Allow the energy to be. It will move it’s way through you automatically just like clouds move across the sky. If you resist, the feelings will “stick” and they will be harder to let go of.

Never try to force the outcome of a love situation. The more you try to speed up the union of a soulmate connection you actually push it away from you.

When manifesting, always do your best feel a sense of ALLOWING it to unfold. This is faith. And the more you practice, the more you build your faith.

Check out the Youtube reading

Soulmate Twinflame Energy

Since it’s Valentine’s Day, I did a reading on soulmate and twin flame energy.

Valentine’s Day is known as the love day. Soulmate twin flame energy is all around us this time of year.

It’s one of my favorite times of the year.

It’s a time that we can tell or express our love to someone especially to ourselves.

Here are the card that I picked for the reading.

Scroll down to the Youtube reading video to see view the meanings.

1st card is

Awaiting Results

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Awaiting Results

 

2nd card is Taking the lead

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Take the lead

3rd card is Coming together

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Coming together

4th card is Forgiveness

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Forgiveness

 

I know it can be tough for those of you at this time of year who are in a twin flame relationship. And I feel for you!

Tip: Read this post, but also watch the video. It doesn’t matter in which order. This will help with taking in all the information from the reading.

You may really miss your twin flame. Or be hoping for them to call. I get it. I’ve been there! The way the Universe works, though, is beyond our human minds ability to understand.

The Universe is Perfect Love. It wants you to find love. It wants you to thrive and be happy. The Universe does have your back. But when you “chase” your twin flame, you are actually affirming to the Universe that is what you want! So they become the “runner.”

This is what Jesus meant when he said “it is done to you as you believe.”

So if you want to be with the Love of your Life, do your best to let go of wanting to control the outcome. Sometimes the Universe knows a better way to bring you together.

Do your best to surrender and know that you are worthy of love. Let go out of love and trust. Not out of fear or because you think you should.

What we think all day long is what we have reflected back to us in our lives. Just know that your perfect Love is here in this world looking for you. And if it’s your twin flame you want, affirm that you want them. You can’t lie, after all.

They are the ones that your heart wants to be with. BUT after you pray and affirm that you want to be with them, add the following: “If it is in the Highest Good of all concerned.”

And keep working with the energy until you feel a shift. More calm. More open. More trusting that your needs will be met.

It’s very important when working with the Law of Attraction and using prayer to add that statement at the end. “If it is in the Highest Good of all concerned.”

After that, just let go and trust. Go about your day. Send kindness and love to people around you. Smile more if you can. Treat yourself to something. And let go of expectations. Just for now.

Know that your perfect Love is here now.

It’s just a matter of time in before it’s manifest in the physical world. Like any plant, you must add water and sunshine. That means to keep your prayers going and to replace any doubts or negative thoughts with positive affirmations such as “I am loveable” or “my Good comes to me now.”

You can do it! And if you need help, I’m here.

How to attract your soulmate

 

 

Love Reading For The Full Moon In Leo

Weekly Love Reading for the full moon

Hello Lovelies

Tonight is a full moon in Leo. It’s also called as the Snow moon with all the snow in February.

It’s a good to time to get rid of what no longer serves you. CLEAN HOUSE.  Make room for love in your life.

To be happy in love and to find love, you must first love your self.

If you don’t love your self, how do you expect anyone to love you? Or for you to really love them?

Remember — you deserve love. No matter what happened in the past, you deserve love.

February is a LOVE month. And we can get emotional. It rules the heart chakra. Which is the LOVE chakra.

Here are some of things to do during the full moon (you got the whole weekend) to get the love snow ball effect rolling.

First set your intentions. Then try one or more of these ideas. Choose the one(s) that resonate with you. Even one small step can get you going

in the right direction.

  1. Clean out clutter or organize a little (no need to do major cleaning unless you choose)
  2. Decorate your planner for the month or calendar
  3. Spend an extra 15 minutes in bed dreaming and write down your dreams.
  4. Give your self a facial (yes guys too)
  5. Plan out a feel good project for yourself and execute
  6. Start a journal
  7. Take yourself on a date
  8. Snuggle in bed with your favorite book
  9. Make a list of positive affirmations.
  10. Treat your self to some markers, pens, pencils and color in my adult coloring pages  Click here to download
  11. Love yourself unconditionally and know that you are LOVEABLE!

To learn more how to attract your soulmate Click here.


I recorded a video for this week.

I used the Mystic Dreamers Tarot

love reading psychic soulmate
The Moon

The 1st card is the Moon (and I didn’t make that happen intentionally)!

This is regarding your fears about love and doubting that you could ever be with someone or happy with that particular person. Right? Are you feeling it? It’s a card of intuition, which is telling you to put down your fear and let the love in. The more you doubt the more you attract fear and worry.

Have confidence that you can be happy. Being to work on it. Don’t believe the negative, fear based thoughts. They no longer serve you.

2nd card is the Four of Wands

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Four Of Wands

The Four of Wands is harmony in the home. It also relates to evaluating what you need to do to make your homelife peaceful. Love yourself and trust that you are beautiful.  This can also tell us that if we are in a twin flame web that the other person is thinking of you and that there is a telepathic connection happening here. Notice the full moon in the picture. Interesting considering there is a full moon tonight 🙂

 

3rd card is the Two Of Cups

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Two Of Cups

The two of cups is a partnership message. Two people that feel the same way. Mutual feelings. Union between two people. This can also be friendships or other relationships such as co workers. There’s more info in the video, but what I’ll leave you with is the saying “you really can’t understand someone unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.”

So do your best to realize everyone is doing their best and understand them. This doesn’t mean you don’t need to set boundaries, or stop dealing with toxic people if necessary. It just means to open up your heart and try to understand without judging.

Here is the video of the reading

Attract Your Soulmate On Valentine’s Day

Attract your soulmate on Valentine’s Day!

It’s just around the corner and this year it’s also a full moon. A day dedicated to soulmates and romance. According to Farmer’s Almanac, today’s full moon is called a Snow Moon.

What Does This Mean For You?

It’s an excellent opportunity to plant seeds of intention. Especially regarding Love. Valentine’s Day has been around for a while. Long enough to create an energy pattern in the collective mind of humans.

The full moon acts as an amplifier to the already strong Love energy. Ok. So now we’re going to talk about what you can do! But first…

 

What You DON’T Want To Do…

If you’re in a twin flame relationship or just single and wanting to be with someone special, the things you may want to do are exactly what you shouldn’t do. Not if you’re serious about results.

You may want to wallow in self pity and and loneliness. Understandablely so! We all need love. We are beings of Love!

But this is actually affirming to the Universal Law of Attraction that you are lonely. So what will you get? More loneliness!

These are only thoughts in your head. Habits. Habits CAN be changed. It takes a bit of work and grit, but it is totally possible.

Have you ever quit smoking or known someone who did? It may have seemed difficult but once they were determined to see themselves as a non smoker, they quit.

Same idea here. You can begin to create new ideas about yourself. Know that you are loveable. Know that you are beautiful. Know that you are deserving.

 

What You Need To Do

How did you feel inside when you thought about yourself as being beautiful and deserving? Did you accept it — or was there another voice inside saying “no you’re not!” ?

If that voice was there, relax. You didn’t do it “wrong.” It’s just showing you what’s been put in there in the past. It could’ve been in childhood or as a youth or even various past lives.

Don’t worry about when it was put there. Just realize that you put it there for a reason at the time, but it no longer serves you now.

Imaging you’re a cat watching a mouse hole. Watch your thoughts the same way. Alert but relaxed. Don’t be afraid if negative thoughts of doubt, fear etc. come. They’re only thoughts.

Relax. Breathe. Realize they’re only thoughts. As you watch them without flinching or resisting them, you’ll eventually be able to let them go.

Set yourself a challenge to do this as best you can. This is your number one practice. It helps greatly if you can feel your connection with a Higher Power of your own understanding.

Next we’re going to talk about some simple things you can do on Valentine’s Day…

 

Attract Your Soulmate On Valentine’s Day

Yes. You read that correctly. Be your own Valentine! There’s a huge difference between feeling lonely and being in solitude.

If you’re by yourself on Valentine’s Day you might as well make it a good day. Pamper yourself. Love yourself.

Look at all you’ve been through. You’re stronger and wiser than you give yourself credit for.

Take yourself out to get your nails or hair done. If you’re a guy, get a shave or pedicure. Make a date and take yourself to dinner. Add a movie in there if you’re so inclined.

Buy yourself flowers and write yourself a nice card.

You may think this is corny. If so, this is really important for you to actually do. Part of you may prefer to wallow in wondering what your twin flame is doing today or silently feeling like a victim. Like it’s not fair. I understand.

But we want you to end this pattern, remember? The pattern is not you. They are old thought patterns.

So please, for you own sake, do this stuff. It really works. You’re starting to affirm to yourself and the Universe that you are loveable. That you are happy. That you are worthwhile.

And people who have these feelings on the inside are very magnetic indeed!

Yes, it’s work. And perhaps it is a little corny. But it does work. How do I know? Because like you, I had a period in my life where I was alone.

And I had some of these thought patterns. Like I was special somehow and couldn’t find normal love like other people.

But I decided to roll up my sleeves and work on it. I’ll be honest. It took some time. Longer than I wanted. But it was well worth it. And I didn’t give up!

A few years later, I met my true and eternal soulmate, Mary! I actually wrote a song about how we found each other in this lifetime. It’s called “Hey Mary Hey.” You can listen to it below.

And if you feel overwhelmed with this, we are here for you to talk to. You can book readings over the phone or via email.

Blessings and Light.

Related Reading:

How To Attract Your Soulmate

How Does The Law Of Attraction Really Work?

Twin Flames, Soulmates And Love

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“Hey Mary Hey” music and lyrics

©2015 by Davidson Yeager

Once upon a time in my biography

Soulmates were like the lottery

Seemed like love had a secret key

Winning the jackpot was not for me

I wasn’t bitter and I still had hope

I saw some signs upon that foggy road

Somethin’ round the bend I couldn’t quite perceive

And Your face was veiled in my dreams

You smoke signalled me

Only my 3rd eye could see

You were waiting for me to come

and knock upon your door

You stood there shining like the morning sun

Hey Mary Hey

I could never keep you waiting long

Hey Mary Hey

I could never do you any wrong

All those seasons on my own

I was only halfway grown

This love has made me realize

Soulmates travel through many lives

You flew in on your wings of gold

You prove positivity can never grow old yeah!

You are always shining like the morning sun!

Hey Mary Hey

I could never keep you waiting long

Hey Mary Hey

I could never do you any wrong

You don’t even have to try

Let me rock you with a lullaby

Songs that only we can hear

Conquer all our earthly fears

Hey Mary Hey

I could never keep you waiting long

Hey Mary Hey

I could never do you any wrong

Hey Mary Hey

I could never keep you waiting long

Hey Mary Hey => You don’t even have to try ‘cos I love you.

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How To Attract Your Soulmate

Intro: Exactly what is a soulmate? There’s a lot of info on the internet about twin flames, karmic flames, etc. And this is all fine and good.

There are many types of soulmates. Family, friends and children can be included. But for our purposes here, a soulmate is someone with whom you feel a deep, heartfelt and soulful connection.

Someone with whom you feel it is possible to create a lasting, loving, passionate and awesome relationship.

 

Why Haven’t I Met My Soulmate? There a several reasons why you are not with your soulmate.

These can be for reasons that are out of your control such as divine timing.

These can also be for reasons that are within your control such as deep down inside not believing you are worthy of love.

 

Divine Timing: This involves our past lives and karma. Forces have been set into motion that need to find a resolution. We may need to wait longer than we

like in order to find our true soulmate. We may need to have our hearts

“broken” but fear not! The Universe (God, Divine Intelligence, The All, The Quantum Self, etc.) is expressing Itself through us as us.

It has our highest good in mind all the time. Sometimes we may not get what we want.

 

Take a moment now to reflect on your life. A time where you thought you wanted something and it didn’t work out how you originally wanted.

In hindsightit’s usually easier to connect the dots and see how it was all for our highest good.

It made us stronger, or more loving. Wiser and more compassionate. More capable of being grateful for what we have.

At other times, maybe our soulmate is being manifested into our lives. We’re doing everything we can to align with the force of Love within us. However, due to

the circumstances which need to unfold in order for that person to arrive in our life, it may take time.

 

In reality, there is no time and space. But we need to experience ourselves as limited in time and space in order to realize the infinite potential of who we really

are. Our true selves reside outside of time and space already whole and complete.

 

Spiritual and Personal Growth: This brings us to things that are within our control. How we react to circumstances in our lives.

This is under the category of spiritual and personal growth. Sometimes we go through challenges and hardships because the Universe ( with our highest good in mind) is trying to show us what we need in order to grow. What our blind spots are.

 

How does this play out?

Let’s say you’ve invoked the Law of Attraction in order to

magnetize your ideal soulmate. Let’s say you even follow through by taking action.

You join a community club, a dating service, or somewhere where you meet some

people. You go on some dates.

 

Let’s say most of these dates are duds (not dudes, duds!). And you feel you’re

wasting your time. But then one day at the market, you bump your cart into an

attractive person. You start chatting with them and feel an immediate and intense

attraction. You exchange numbers and start dating.

 

After a month or so this person suddenly grows distant. They don’t reply to your

texts or emails as often. They seem to have a wall around them. Why is this?

 

This is NOT some sort of punishment. You are NOT a victim of life. You are a true

co creator of your life.

However, due to the combination of nature and DNA, past

life issues and the beliefs and habits you’ve picked up in this life time (mostly from

family butalso teachers, society and your own life experiences) you are not

resonating in the true belief of someone who is capable and deserving of being in

a lasting and loving relationship.

 

So you attract someone who is going to reflect that belief back to you. Sometimes

these patterns are very difficult to see. Much easier to see in others than in ourselves.

 

That Pesky Ego: Why are they so darned difficult to not only see, but to change?

This is because these patterns and beliefs form a false identity in our psyche

known as the ego. WAIT! The ego is not all bad. Without it, we couldn’t function on

the earthly plane. We wouldn’t know our names or be able to function is even the

most basic of ways. Even the most peaceful of people on this planet still have an ego. It’s just much less of a “problematic” ego

than most people.

 

The ego gets a pretty bad rap these days. In our experience, when people refer to

the ego what they really mean is those negative programs and beliefs that no

longer serve. And the harsher energy of lower vibrations where it’s all me, me,

me.

 

The ego can, with practice, be “softened.” This means that the person is more

peaceful and centered in most situations. This allows them to make more creative and powerful choices.

This leads to more effective action in the world.

 

The ego is also who you think you are. It’s not your true self, but most of us

subconsciously identify with our name, our job, our family, nation, sex, race, etc. That’s our ego.

 

It wants to protect itself. Why? Because it’s afraid to die. If you have a belief that is holding you back from what you really want in life but

at the same time it’s apart of your ego, your ego will fight to keep that belief true.

This is because changing the belief and then facing the unknown is like death. That’s why the Death card in tarot is really about transformation.

 

The real kicker to all this is that the Universe, being the faithful and humble

servant it is, will create that which you believe in. If you believe deep down that

you are not worthy of love, you will attract relationships that reflect this truth back

to you.

 

I know. I know. How to change?

 

Good News: First of all, it IS POSSIBLE TO CHANGE! I know from both personal

experience, and from many other examples of people who have. It’s a lot like

someone who smokes. They start to realize the habit is not serving them

anymore. It’s actually sabotaging their life both in terms of health and finances.

Not to mention socially. So they try to quit.

 

They may have to try quitting several times over a few years before they finally get it right and get free from nicotine.

On the other hand, someone else may get it right on the

first attempt. Everyone has their own timetable of receptivity for growth in different areas of their lives.

 

Same with any beliefs you may have about having a soulmate. You may have to

go through a few broken hearts and dozens of really bad dates, a bad marriage (or two!) before you finally get it.

At this point, your love and happiness and belief in yourself will attract the right person to you very quickly.

 

We generally go through these setbacks and challenges in order to make ourselves really fed up. Feeling really fed up will give us the determination to finally transform.

However, it’s not absolutely necessary to have to go through all that pain and suffering to finally come out the other side.

 

If you’re really serious about attracting your soulmate, and willing to do the work,

there are some powerful techniques below that will help you. But you have to be fiercely willing to be honest with yourself.

It’s very easy to get stuck in denial and not see what everybody around us can see so easily when they look at our lives.

(This doesn’t mean everyone around you has your best interest at heart and is

always right).

 

1) Regular Exercise: If you’re already doing this, kudos! You’re on the right track.

The benefits of regular exercise are well documented so I won’t go into it here.

Find something realistic that works for you and that you also enjoy. Don’t go and

kill yourself with something really hard. Build up slowly. But don’t let yourself off

the hook either. Be consistent. Suffice to say it will make you a more positive and

attractive person. ‘Nuff said.

 

2) Nutrition: You don’t have to be perfect. There’s a lot of information out there

about nutrition. Start reading! We need to take responsibility for ourselves in this

world. Get a coach. Ask people questions.

Try it for yourself to see what works.

Food either nourishes us or it depletes us. Again, find what works for you. A small

stretch from where you are now is all you need to start moving in the right

direction. Again, you’ll feel more energized.

Consequently you’ll look better.

You’re skin and eyes will glow and sparkle. a little bit of body text

You’ll feel more confident.

Oh yeah…drink plenty of clean water. Either from a spring or filtered tap water. Your body needs the minerals.

 

3) Declutter Your Office and Living Space: Speaks for itself. But it shows the

Universe that you care. You love yourself. You have esteem for yourself. There’s a

balance between being a slob and being a neat freak. Just do your best.

 

4) Meditate: A lot of people say they don’t like to meditate. Or they don’t know

how. Here’s some news for you. You already meditate! It’s just that you’re not

doing it consciously. Or you’re meditating on how that person gave you a dirty look, cut you off in traffic, etc.

 

Meditation simply means calming the mind down. Simply observe your breath. Sit

in a comfortable position. Allow your thoughts to come and go, doing your best not to get involved in them.

If you do, direct your attention back to your breath when you notice this.

If this is difficult for you, it is actually pointing out that you need it.

You only need 5 to 10 minutes to start with. Again, it’s about being consistent.

Make it a habit.

 

There are also guided meditations online. These can be good “training wheels” if you’re new to meditation. Just do an online search — there’s plenty of options out

there.

Here is a guided meditation Mary Rose created. You can download it right now. Click here.

 

5) Take a Walk In Nature: Just get out and away from the office, the hustle and

bustle. It doesn’t have to be exotic. If you live in a city, a park will do just fine. Just allow yourself to enjoy the rhythm of walking, the breeze and fresh air, flowers,

birds, trees, snow, or whatever is in the environment.

 

6) Read Personal Development or Spiritual Books: Our minds/egos are very powerful. It takes focused intention to change. Daily reflective reading of these

books even a page or two each day can

really support your transformation. If you already read lots of books, great! It’s either just a matter of time, or maybe you need to apply more of the concepts from the books.

 

7) Affirmations: The most important affirmations will be that you love and accept

yourself no matter what. You’re doing your best after all. Even when you’ve made “mistakes” they got you to this point in your life. That was the best you could do. Give yourself love!

 

8) Self Love and Care: On that note, take care of yourself. Get your hair done or

cut regularly. Get your nails done. Organize your wardrobe. Take luxurious baths

and regular showers. You get the idea.

 

9) Listen To Your Intuition and Act On It: If you incorporate even half of the above

on a regular basis your ability to perceive your intuitive messages clearly will

increase. When you notice signs and intuitions, act on them. Remember, if you

take action and it doesn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, it’s not a failure! It means

there is something you needed to learn to take you to the next stage of manifesting your goal.

Buy a deck of oracle cards. Use them every morning for a month and see if your intuition becomes sharper.

 

10) Get Honest Feedback From Someone You Trust: We all get stuck in doubt and uncertainty from time to time. If there’s someone in your life who you can trust

to give you unbiased and honest feedback, ask them what they think. This could be a family member, co worker or psychic/spiritual coach and counsellor such as

Mary Rose.

 

Other Helpful Healing Modalities:

As Reiki masters and Crystal Healers we’ve of course found both Reiki and

Crystals to be very helpful and supportive with change at deep levels. You may

want to explore these options. If treatments fit your budget, we highly recommend

them. Do your due diligence and check out the practitioners. Better if you know

someone who recommends them.

 

If your budget doesn’t allow for that right now, no worries. The universe is perfect

and everything does happen for a reason. You are not separate from the events and circumstances of your life.

Get a rose quartz. That’s for love. Many crystals are helpful, but that’s a good place to start. Clear quartz or amethyst are also good to start with. Who knows you may fall in love with crystals and build up a

collection!

Final Thoughts, Faith and Surrender: This is perhaps the most important piece of the puzzle. And the one most of us have the most difficulty with.

And that is surrendering the outcome. What does that mean? How do you do that? Especially if your really want someone to be with you in your life? To quote from the George Michael song, you have to have faith. You have to have faith that Life and Divine

Intelligence has your highest good in mind.

 

If that person is meant to be in your life, they will be. Simple as that. Now does that

mean you don’t phone them or text them? Of course not. But this is where you have to use your own common sense and judgement. Be honest with yourself. If

over time that person has a poor record of responding to you, you have to face some cold hard facts. You have to ask yourself if that is really what you want.

Some call these warning signs or “red flags.” That’s what I mean by surrender. Because if you decide in your heart that you don’t want that, you’ll surrender it to the Universe. And someone better will come along.

Pray. Ask questions. There is a Higher Power that knows the way. For us, it’s our Angels and Guides. Whatever your Higher Power is, contact It.

The answers you are looking for will arrive. You just need to be willing to see them and embrace them when they show up.

 

You deserve nothing less than someone attractive (to you) who shares your values, your emotional and spiritual maturity, and you have things in common.

Remember, if it doesn’t work out with someone, this is not a failure!

There is no such thing. It is just your own Soul teaching you what you need to know to expand your awareness so that you can go to create your perfect soulmate relationship.

 

Every time it doesn’t work out, you’re one step closer! Remember, everyone has their own pace and timetable. Some take a few attempts to get it right. Don’t give

up on yourself. Keep learning. Keep reaching. You can do it!

 

How I Met Mary Rose: David: I went through my own share of broken hearts and “dead end streets” on my journey to finally connect with my eternal soulmate, Mary Rose. We’ve been together 10 years now and I love her more now than I did in our honeymoon phase.

It was a very daunting situation when we met but my guides were very insistent that she was “the one.” On the surface of things, it looked like it would be very difficult to get together. I won’t go into details as it’s personal but it appeared like it would take a miracle.

 

I prayed everyday!! All day whenever I thought of her. What did I pray for? For her to be in my life if it was in my highest good. This is where lessons from my past

helped me. Because of the pain of those relationships ultimately not working out, I was able to absolutely release on the outcome with Mary Rose. Even though I

knew who she was in my heart. And I couldn’t stop thinking about her. The energy mostly felt very expansive despite how things looked on the surface. Not

contracted or obsessive and unsure.

 

I trusted and had faith that if my intuition was correct, Life would bring us together.

I was proactive of course. I asked her out. I told her how I felt, etc. I didn’t give up.

I didn’t give up because my guides told me to have faith.

 

And it worked out. In the past I’d had situations where I didn’t give up because I was being stubborn. I was trying to “force” things in my mind. I wasn’t being

honest with myself with the answers that the Universe was providing me. With Mary Rose, it was a different energy. I relaxed and trusted even though it was

definitely one of the most exciting times of my life.

 

I hope this little story illustrates to you the difference between “holding on” and “letting go.” Faith and Trust.

 

Finally, don’t be hard on yourself if you haven’t yet manifested your soulmate. Get

back up and try again! You are no different from anyone else. You can do it too!

 

I hope you enjoyed this article written by David and found it informative.

Please share with anyone you think could benefit.

And if you’re still lost and hurting with your twin flame relationship, I can help with a reading.

Further Related Reading:

Soulmate-Twinflame Energy

Attract Your Soulmate On Valentine’s Day

How The Law Of Attraction Really Works

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